EVERYONE BELIEVES THE WOMAN BUT BE CAREFUL
Jezebel remains to this day one of the most
notorious villains in the bible besides Satan. She specialized in three wicked
tactics. The first thing that we noticed about her was that she had a proclivity
to usurp authority over her husband I Kings 21:5-8 and gay men (her priest and
servants were emasculated 2 Kings 9:32).
Women who are under the influence of the Jezebel Spirit usually seek ways to
dishonor their husbands in order to gain a higher status then he or to have
control and she usually have quite a few gay male friends. Jezebel belittles her
husband behind his back and to his face in many cases. Secondly she enhances
her features with makeup for the use of enticing men and uses her sexuality to
seduce them 2
Kings 9:30.
Finally Jezebel uses lies and slander in order to do damage, gain influence over people, to usurp spiritual
authority and to get what she wants 1 King 21:10. Jezebel slandered Naboth to
death. Naboth was a God fearing man who refused to sell his vineyard because he
was obeying God’s command not to sell their land because the Holy Land belonged
to God. In Leviticus 25:23 God said, The land shall NOT be sold FOREVER: for the
land is mine, says God. Because Naboth held such a strong, ridged
position for God and wasn’t willing to compromise Jezebel employed a lie in
order for her husband Ahab to seize Naboth’s vineyard.
I Kings 21:1-16 Jezebel
said in
those letters you write: “Proclaim a day of fasting and seat Naboth in a
prominent place among the people.
But
seat two scoundrels (sons of the Devil) opposite him and have them bring false
charges and say that he has cursed both God and the king. Then take him out and
stone him to death.”
So
the elders and nobles who lived in Naboth’s city did as Jezebel directed
in the letters she had written to them.
They
proclaimed a fast and seated Naboth in a prominent place among the people.
Then
two scoundrels came and sat opposite him and brought lying charges against
Naboth before the people, saying, “Naboth has cursed both God and the king.” So
they took him outside the city and stoned him to death.
Then
they sent word to Jezebel: “Naboth
has been stoned to death.”
As
soon as Jezebel heard that Naboth
had been stoned to death, she said to Ahab, “Get up and take possession of the
vineyard of Naboth the Jezreelite that he refused to sell you. He is no longer
alive, but dead.”
Defamation is the act of saying false things in
order to make people have a bad opinion of someone or something. I have
suffered greatly because of defamation and I know it’s venomous bite all too well but
thanks be to God I was able to shake it off Act 28:5 and i'm still here to tell my story.
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Now that I’m healed from the workings of Jezebel I
believe that it is now my season to speak. Slander has destroyed my family and hindered
the work that my Heavenly Father has given me to do. I don’t know if the damage
done to my name will recover but with God all things are possible and I’m
thankful that I have recovered as much as I have.
The leadership of my church and
I recently addressed the church about the continued slander on my name and the
ministry and the steps we are prepared to take.
Here
is How I Addressed My Church About My Book
Well
I want to start off by reading a scripture: James 1:19-20 This you know, my
beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to
anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.…
God
has matured me over the past several years to live this scripture.
With
the encouragement of my mom and the rest of the leaders I want to talk to you
tonight about what’s been happening the last several years. The Lord has been my rock and my
salvation. He is longsuffering but now
the Lord has told me to speak. Not in an
effort to hurt or defame anyone but as a testimony of God’s Glory and
sustaining Grace. Again, my story is not
to be spiteful or resentful in any way.
I am only sharing my story with you so that you can cover me.
In
the summer of 2009 I was a victim of infidelity, my wife cheated on me and it
was the worst pain imaginable. I filed
for a divorce later that year and the divorce was official in the spring of
2010. I forgave my ex and I was even
hoping she would change so that we could reconcile for my children’s sake and
for the Kingdom. Unfortunately, that did
not happen and I knew I could NEVER trust her again. I sincerely forgave her and I chose to move
forward with my life, and ministry peacefully.
Ironically
there has been no peace for the last several years. The lies and defamation of
character started to peak. Rumors upon
rumors, lies upon lies. I was still
broken and in pain for my shattered family, the majority of my spiritual
children left me, the hurt from the woman I thought I would be with forever
cheating on me and NOW, my good name was being ruined. I was the victim but somehow I was painted as
the villain through countless lies.
-beating her
-not forgiving her
-not taking care of my children
-mentally unstable
-cheater
etc.
Even
though my ex has remarried and has been for over a year now. The drama has not
ceased. I have been put in jail on a
couple of occasions and I have lost many opportunities to minister because of
the slander and defamation. But yet I
have stood and this church is being restored and continues to grow.
Eccl
tells us there is a time for everything.
I’ve held my peace through the pain and stood in faith. The Lord told me son, it’s time to stand
openly and take authority over this situation.
With God’s instruction and the support of our leadership, I am taking
authority over the lies and putting an end to the slander. I will pursue this through legal counsel.
Thank
you in advance for your love, prayers and support!!!
Lies were being told about me to the members of my
church and community for years by my wife and I had no clue. Yet I wondered why
it was taking so long to grow the church to the level that I knew it could
grow. Good, faithful and long-time members who were not only members but were my
friends would leave the church without a word and would never respond to my
calls. They were being told slanderous things about me by my wife, the First
Lady saying that I was mentally ill, or having had the football concussion
syndrome, and that I was physically and verbally abusive to her and they left but they had
no clue that the Devil was slandering a man who loved God.
If only they would have done their homework or asked
me or looked at my children they would have known better. Not one of my children could say that they have
ever seen or heard of me beating or hitting their mom, because it never happened. Our two oldest
daughters, our son and granddaughter currently live with me as well as are faithful members
of my church. That's a strong testament within itself. God has graciously blessed them. They are attending college, working,
holders of Cosmetology license, recording artist, football player, Praise
Worship Leaders and much more and to God be the Glory. Since the courts awarded me custody (Read about the court room battle in The
Broken Strong Man book) of our son he gone from D’s and bad attendance and
tardiness to A’s, B’s and to being in class on time and getting upset with himself
for not making straight A’s. My ex’ answer to why one of our daughters chose
to live with me is shocking and beyond belief, you will not believe what she
said (Read it in the Broken Strong Man
Book).
During the early stages of my ex’s smear campaign against
me I was cast down emotional as well as financially as I watched the church membership
and the people’s trust in me dwindle down to few and little. The money that the church paid me I gave
it back in order to keep the work of God going. I figured I could get out and
preach in order to bring in some money to help. So I called a preacher friend
of mind from the Jurisdictional Fellowship that I was a part of. There is an unspoken understanding among preachers that if another preacher calls you for
an open door to preach then he must be in need and if you could you should open
the door. I never had to make such a call before but nevertheless I made the call and
he told me that he would be glad to have me preach for him as soon as I got
things right with my wife. I asked him what did he mean? He said he had been
hearing some things and that I needed to get that together before I came to his
church. I didn't even bother to plead my innocence with to him because I could
hear that he was too full of that slanderous venom and I could hear it running out of his
mouth.
When I finished that call the Holy Spirit told me not to make another
call to preach and that I had to wait and so for years I waited. I fought back
tears as the reality of the magnitude of her lies had surrounded me as the strong,
demonic bulls of Bashan Psalm 22:12 and they cut me off. I wanted to fight back
and tell everyone about her affair and other defects but I didn't because I
said that she was my children’s mother and she wasn't as strong as I was so I didn't do or say anything to the masses. I no longer could provide for my children as I always have and I had to bear the pain and shame of knowing that
people thought that I was a woman beating man and preacher, a cheater and a
crazy man. With no church and a broken home it certainly looked true but it was
far from true.
I really needed some encouragement but encouragement
for a man who is known for beating a woman and being crazy doesn't come. Then one day a young couple,
members of my church, that I was pouring into called and invited me to lunch
and I figured they were going to shake some money into my hand and encourage me
to keep on keeping on but the Spirit of God told me that they too were leaving
the church. We went to lunch, we laughed and ate and at the end of the lunch
they said ‘pastor it’s time for us to go, to leave the church. God had already
prepared me. I said ok and I told them how proud I was of their spiritual
growth and I blessed them. His wife said pastor you don’t seem surprised or
hurt I answered why should I, I can’t make people stay when they want to go. I didn't tell them that the Spirit had made it known to me nor did I ask them why
they were leaving. I formed an opinion as to why they were leaving. In my
opinion they were leaving because she was a great admirer of my ex and although
I was the victim of my ex’s affair she somehow persuaded the young lady not to
focus on the affair but to receive the lies that she was feeding her about me. I
also guested that her husband was not a strong enough man to convince his wife
to stay with the church so he followed her out.
It took me a long time to heal but I was patient with
the process and I allowed myself time and space to mourn my losses, to hurt from
the betrayal and to refocus without rushing into another relationship. I faced
it all and I embraced it all with the help of the Lord. At times looking at myself in the mirror was like looking at a dying
man, a broken man but nevertheless I was still God’s man. The only relationships
that were important to me were my relationship with God, my children, my family
and my very few friends. As men we are so used to not acknowledging pain
especially when women are the cause of that pain but one of the key principles
to healing is acknowledging that you are hurt Mark 2:17 Jesus said that the
whole need don’t need a Doctor, as well as we must be willing to embrace (See The Broken StrongMan Book)
I
remember watching an animal show about lions and one of the lioness were bitten
by a Cobra, one of the most deadly snakes in the world. It looked as though the
venom (See The Broken StrongMan Book)
My Ex’s Attorney contacted me by email about my last
blog “Men Fighting For Freedom” posted on May 7th 2014 (http://thebrokenstrongman.blogspot.com/)
threating to take legal actions if I didn't remove it. The heading of his email was addressed to the Broken Straw Man.. see it and my
response below. My new book “The Broken Strong Man” will give more insight on
this and other facts.
Broken
Straw Man - Defamation
Issues
To Jeroneld@
Jerone,
I am
writing you on behalf of xxxxxxxxx as her attorney. It has come
to her attention that you are promoting a new book on a website by writing
slanderous things about her character, among them infidelity and criminal
activities. If these things are not
removed from your website promoting the book by end of business Monday, May 12,
2014, she is prepared to take any and all necessary legal action to recover
monetary damages and court relief. Feel
free to call me if you have any questions.
Thanks,
Attorney
At Law
415-
MY
RESPONSE TO HER ATTORNEY
Thanks
for contacting me. But before I go any further into this letter allow me to say
that I have noticed two things in your correspondence to me that makes me think
that a professional Attorney is taking personal shots at me. One the Broken Straw Man Statement (when you
know it's Broken StrongMan) and two 3 am? Contacting me at 3am (seems a little
creepy and suspect to me).
I must
tell you that your contacts with me are subject to being interjected into my
new book and or placed on Facebook for all to see and so that everyone will
know of your clients antics and what I continue to face and have faced often.
I'm
sorry to be the one to tell you that you are very misinformed about your client’s
history with our children and I. I have plenty of evidence to prove everything
that I wrote in my Broken Strong Man blog.
She did
in fact cheat, I was detained in jail, the police did come to arrest me on
Easter Sunday (I have the two police officers names and BG#), I did, as you
know, go to Southern California to get my children, the police did take a
statement from my neighbor who described your client and her car being present
at my home during the time of the theft of my computer, I have that police
report. I have proof for everything that I have stated.
a. I have the polygraph test result (that she
submitted to and fail) which proves that she did in fact have an affair
and was alone in a hotel room with him. She did confess (See The Broken StrongMan Book)
b. Our children told me of the
affair. And of their (See The Broken
StrongMan Book). My children will testify that your client (my ex) attempted
to get them to lie to me about her and Mr. J. Wi being together that weekend in Reno, Nv. They
will tell of your clients many closed door convo's with him. My children
were to ones to expose the affair to me (they are my witnesses and so is the
polygraph and they will testify to that fact). I have taught my children to
stand for the truth even if I was a liar to stand against me but always stand
for God and they will, watch them.
c. Your clients own court room
statement as to where her husband lives (Texas) and our children live (Southern
California). and my children have seen her (your client) here in town
(Fairfield, Ca) for over 3 weeks and they will testify to that. Meanwhile my
two younger daughters are left alone without either parent. That's wrong and not
fair to them to not have either parent present in their lives.
d. I have videos of her and Mr. J.
Wil from Houston
Tx (my children knows his name very well) together, photos etc. (See The Broken StrongMan Book)
e. Members of my church were
present when she brought him (See The
Broken StrongMan Book)
f. My mother was….. (See The Broken StrongMan Book)
g. (See The Broken
StrongMan Book)
e. (See The Broken
StrongMan Book)
I am
determined to share the truth as I write about MY STORY and If you or your
client see anything in my Broken StrongMan blog that is false please contact my
attorney so that I can be as accurate…(See
The Broken StrongMan Book)
Attorneys Reply (See The Broken StrongMan Book)
My Response (See
The Broken StrongMan Book)
The Broken Strong Man is a must read
for men and everyone who have suffered at the hands of an unfaithful spouse,
friend or a loved one and are seeking to recover.
The book shares my story, my healing and the principles that I used in order to
heal and move forward. Please tell a Broken Strong Man, family member, friend,
co-worker, church etc. about my Facebook page The Broken Strong Man and about
the book. God bless you all and rejoice in the Lord always.
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